Now that everyone worldwide is in a catch-22 situation due to the ongoing pandemic, it is quite normal for flare-ups to take place between families and friends. But, retaliating in anger can destroy many relationships and, of course, yourself. Yes!! Anger is self-destructive! It disrupts your mental peace, makes you look at your emotional self with an intensity ten times more than it should be. Think about it…You are depressed and tired. Your sister says something that annoys the hell out of you, and you over-react. No, no, no…don’t make that excuse that her behavior was irritating! She might have done the same thing many times before; still, you chose this moment to be angry. Doesn’t this say anything to you?
Always remember that anger is an emotion that can wreak havoc in your life, and you need to know how to control it. And here I am with these 8 mind-blowing tips that will help rein in your anger:
Identify Anger As Something To Be Taken Care Of:
Mostly, people who lash out in anger think they are effectively managing an issue. But then think again. Because you only think that when anger clouds your mind and makes your decisions biased. Sure, everyone feels angry at some point in time; however, you should not let your anger take center stage and spoil things for you. You need to identify this emotion as problematic. Only then can you proceed with resurrecting it.
Be Aware Of The Reason Behind An Outburst:
Sometimes, you are only angry due to your expectations of a certain someone. Sometimes, you are angry because you did not let go of your frustration from something in your life.
Don’T Judge People Based On Your Opinion:
As per research, most of us experience intense anger in regards to people we love. Naturally, everyone holds their loved ones to a way they want them to behave. But as soon as we understand that everyone has a different belief system, the better it is for us. You would do better not to shove down your own opinion down someone’s throat. You may think that one should be determined and should have goals, and that’s right! But that’s your own opinion, and an idea cannot be judged as right or wrong. Only facts can be.
Look At How You Behave When You Are Angry:
Yeah, that’s right! Trust me, and this small step is what can easily control your anger. To have more clarity on this, you can maintain a small diary if you do not want to share what you did when you were angry the last time. Please write down the anger episode word to word and go through it later. Chances are, you will laugh at the absurdity of it all. Be mindful of even. Only you spoke, every action you took, the way you did it, and reflect on that episode later.
Take Care Of Yourself:
Oh, yes! This is the simplest step, yet many fail to act on this. You ignore how you are feeling and let the other dark emotions take you over. Sleep if you are tired, talk it with your loved one if you are stressed about something. If you are unhappy about something, solve it or make an attempt that’s worth it. Many times, other heightened emotions lead to anger.
Let Out The Steam In A Productive Way:
Ease your mind with things that make you feel happy and positive. Play catch with your doggo, or spend time chilling and joking around with your friends. And after you have done that, now think what action you would like to take with the person you are angry with.
Empathize With The Person You Are Angry With:
People often fail to understand the other side of the argument put forward by the person in front of them when they are angry. This is also the reason why anger robs a person of their sensible self. The next time you are angry, know where the other person is coming from and try to imagine yourself in their position.
Don’t Always Prioritize The “I”:
While we should think about ourselves, you might miss others’ points of view if you are always into yourself. Try to understand an opinion different than yours and why it is the way it is. Nine times out of 10, you would find yourself calmly responding without being angry.
So, keep these things in mind, and don’t let the anger get better of you. Diffuse the anger into nothingness by acting on all the tips mentioned above.